If you’re an introvert, socializing probably isn’t your strong suit. But interacting well with people is the key to success in dating, friendships, and your career. Stop settling for less in your life—hone your strengths, shore up your weaknesses, and become the Introvert Unbound!
Having trouble finding dates? Wish you had more friends? Feeling under-appreciated at work? Don’t worry, you’re not alone…even though it might feel like it sometimes.
Chances are, there’s nothing wrong with you, and you’re just experiencing the downside of being an introvert—which simply means that socializing drains your energy, while spending time alone recharges it.
Needless to say, there are countless benefits to being an introvert, including high levels of creativity, thoughtfulness, and independence (and many other positive qualities). However, it’s hard to deny that interacting well with people is the key to success in dating, friendships, and your career. And since socializing is exhausting to you, you probably don’t do it as often, so you might not be as adept at it as you could be.
The good news is they call them social skills for a reason, and that’s because—like painting a portrait or throwing a football—they’re something you can learn. And that’s what Introvert Unbound is all about.
It doesn’t matter who you are, breakups suck. You invested anything from months to years in this person, sharing your body, heart, and mind, and now they’re gone, possibly forever. It’s almost as if they’ve died, but worse, in some ways—at least if they were dead you wouldn’t have to worry about running into them with their new “bae” at the grocery store.
But breakups are typically worse for introverts than extroverts. It’s not that extroverts don’t miss their exes just as much as introverts do, it’s that extroverts’ addiction to socializing means they’ll be out playing the field again in no time. In fact, they’re probably looking forward to getting out there again.
Introverts, on the other hand, tend to compound the heartbreak with crippling, existential dread. “You’re saying that I’ve got to sift through dozens—if not hundreds—of incompatible, draining humanoids before I find another of those rare specimens I can actually stand?”
We typically avoid political discussions at Introvert Unbound, preferring to focus instead on personal responsibility and self- development. But the recent controversy surrounding “incels” (involuntary celibates) has such a direct tie-in to our work that we felt compelled to comment and make a video.
For those who don’t know, an “incel” is someone (typically a man, but not necessarily) without sexual or romantic relationships, a situation they typically attribute to their physical appearance and/or lack of social skills.
Isolated by nature, many of them have come together through the Internet via platforms such as Reddit as a way to support one another, commiserate, or simply just experience the connection with like-minded individuals we all crave. However, following the deadly Toronto attack in April committed by an apparent incel that killed 10 innocent victims, these outcasted individuals no longer have access to their most popular online gathering space after Reddit banned the “incel” subreddit. Continue reading “A Message to Incels”