– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound
It’s hard to deny that dating tends to be easiest for extroverts, particularly in the early stages where self-advertising is the name of the game.
The good news, however, is there are several ways in which we introverts have a leg up on our chatty counterparts.
1. Deep Connectors
Introverts prefer close friendships over superficial acquaintances, which can be a major asset in the dating world. When a woman realizes you’re actually interested in getting to know her as a person instead of just one more notch on the bedpost, it can send you right to the front of the line.
2. Good Listeners
Women often (and rightfully) complain that men don’t know how to shut up. Luckily, listening is a quality introverts have in spades. Leaving space for her to speak–while showing genuine interest in what she has to say–can be as important as what comes out of your mouth.
3. Thoughtful Speakers
Thinking before speaking is a tell-tale sign of an introvert. While this filter can sometimes slow down our tongues, the good news is it also usually keeps us from saying anything unkind, rude, or just plain stupid.
Similar to our listening skills, introverts’ ever-present discomfort in social situations can train us to pick up cues that our date might be uncomfortable as well. This can range from noticing she’s too cold, the music too loud, or you’re moving things too quickly (or slowly). Being perceptive about another’s needs is a very attractive quality, indeed.
Extroverts have trouble functioning without people around them, which can come across as needy (because it is). Meanwhile, introverts who value their alone time demonstrate independence, a huge turn on to a lot of women.
Needless to say, there are many more than five qualities that give us introverts that dating edge. Got any, yourself? Go ahead and leave them in the comments!