Articles

A selection of original articles written by Wes Colton and Regina Hopkins for Introvert Unbound.

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

The Paradox of Self Love and Self Help

Can you embrace the paradox of self love and self help?


A New Definition for Introversion

A lot of what makes you an introvert is how you respond to stimulation. 


How To Stop Being Lazy

Laziness is the main obstacle keeping you from the life you want.


No Growth Without Failure

Mini-disasters are some of the best things that can happen to you.


Overcoming Hardship as a Man

No question being born a man has its advantages. But you don’t need me to tell you it also comes with its share of obstacles.


Skipping a Level Isn’t the Same as Beating It

The true path to mastery is completing every stage from beginner, to intermediate, to advanced.


Why Most Advice for Introverts is Dead Wrong

Either implicitly or explicitly, the message is all too often that because you’re an introvert it’s okay to avoid socializing. 


Ditching the Introvert Crutch

Sorry to break it to you, but being an introvert isn’t an excuse for sucking at conversation.


An Introvert’s Secret to Extending Your Social Battery

Over the years, I started to accept the fact that my aversion to socializing might be keeping me from living the life I wanted.


Reframing Small Talk

The reason small talk seems so superficial is because it is.


DATING

5 Signs It’s Time to Hire a Dating Coach

Not sure if the image you’re projecting is going to entice potential dates? Here are 5 signs you could use some help from the pros.


The Case Against Online Dating

While there’s no question online dating can enhance many people’s dating lives, I’m going to explain why, as a dating coach, I don’t often recommend it to my clients.


Why I’m Swearing Off Women for a Month

With the new year coming up, I wondered what it would be like to not only avoid dating throughout the whole of January, but not even try to date anyone.


A Woman’s Take on “Cold Approach”

Regina approaches a man at the gym to see what happens.


Introverts & Dating Apps: 5 Tips to Help You Stay Sane

Even with their dark side, dating apps do have a place in the dating world in terms of functionality and usefulness.


Weathering Breakups as an Introvert

Find out why breakups are typically worse for introverts than extroverts and what you can do about it. 


Five Introvert Dating Advantages

There are several ways in which we introverts have a leg up on extroverts when it comes to dating. 


The Three Dating “Buckets”

There are three “buckets” we put potential dates into, usually without being overtly conscious of it.


Is Cold-Approach “Pickup” Turning You Into a Weirdo? 

If you’re not careful, “pickup” can start to warp your personality, where every part of your being is so focused on what might get a girl to like you, that you start having trouble functioning in other social spheres.


Are You In Dating Denial? 

Basically, if you’re a guy who’s not where he wants to be dating-wise and you keep telling yourself that the problem will fix itself—you’re in dating denial.


Qualifying and Screening a Date

Qualifying is nothing more than asking a woman questions about herself so you can figure out if she’s the type of woman you want to date.


9 Reasons You’re Not Getting Dates

If you’re not getting regular dates, I can almost guarantee that at least one—and likely more than one—of these reasons applies to you


Is Cold-Approach Sexual Harassment?

There’s no question that we’re living in a time when men’s behavior towards women is being scrutinized like never before. However, instead of this spelling the demise of cold-approach, I’d argue that it’s more important than ever.


How To Touch a Woman

Whether it’s a from cold-approach or on an Internet date, if you want to get intimate with a woman, at some point you’re going to have to touch her. So what’s the when, where, and how when it comes to physicality?


The Most Common (and Fixable) Habit Keeping You From Attracting Women

It might not sound like much, but proximity is often the difference between a woman perceiving you as a potential sexual partner or just a friend/harmless rando.


How to Deal with Ghosting

For those who don’t know, ghosting is when someone stops texting you without any explanation why. We’ve all had it done to us. But why does it hurt so much?


Rejection = Success

Though it may sound counterintuitive, the more successful you get with women, the more rejections you’ll be experiencing.


Do Women Want to be Objectified?

A woman walks down the street, her hair dyed blonde, eyes smeared with purple eyeshadow and mascara, blush on her cheeks, bright red lipstick glistening, wearing a low-cut, form-fitting, oh-so-short dress. Does this mean she wants to be ogled by men?


FRIENDS

The Introvert Guy’s Guide to Making Friends

Let’s face it: as an introvert guy it can be tough to make friends. In many ways it’s easier to go out and find women to date than it is to meet a dude friend to hang out with. 


WORK

The 10 Commandments of Working From Home

Here are the Ten Commandments I follow that have allowed me to successfully work from home for almost a decade.