No Growth Without Failure

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

facepalm-cropAre you trying to date or make friends but keep failing miserably in the process? If so, congrats!

No, I’m not making fun of you. I’m actually dead serious when I say those mini-disasters are some of the best things that can happen to you.

Of course, the frustration, humiliation, and isolation that often comes along with screwing up socially feels pretty awful in the moment. But if you succeeded at everything in life without trying, you’d never grow as a person.

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Skipping a Level Isn’t the Same as Beating It

-by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

Skipping-levelI get it. You’re not where you want to be in life and you’re overwhelmed by all the hard work it’s going to take to get there.

You’re constantly bombarded with advice from friends, family, coaches, therapists, and gurus: Read books. Socialize more. Lift weights. Take classes. Change your diet. Find a new career. All of these options—many of which aren’t right for you now or contradict one another—no wonder you’re starting to tune them out.

Obviously, you can’t do everything at once. The key is to pick a single area and make that your focus for a while.

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Reframing Small Talk

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

small-talkOne of the biggest introvert pet peeves is “small talk.” That’s usually because deep-delvers such as ourselves don’t want to waste our precious social energy on petty topics like weather or sports scores, but instead connect on issues that matter to us.

This quest for meaning is one of introverts’ most admirable traits. Unfortunately, with most people, it’s not always possible to get into such weighty matters right off the bat. For example, it comes across as a little weird to introduce yourself for the first time to a stranger and then immediately ask, “So, do you think there’s such a thing as pure good and evil?”

When people get together with strangers, they’re sussing one another out. So it’s understandable that a lot of folks are wary about baring their souls to people they don’t know the first thing about. And that’s really what small talk is about.

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