Facing Your Fears as an Introvert

– by Wes Colton, Founder & Coach, Introvert Unbound

Fear is one of the biggest obstacles we introverts face on the path to transforming our social, dating, and work lives. Any number of things might start our hearts palpitating, from embarrassing ourselves in social interactions, to trying our best and still not meeting our goals, to getting our heart broken.

But deep down we all know that refusing to confront that which we dread most only gives it more power over us. To this end, I’d like to share a recent personal experience that shows how facing one’s fears is a lot easier than we think…facing-fear Continue reading “Facing Your Fears as an Introvert”

What’s Your Dating Trajectory?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

trajectoryThanks to our limited social energy and fondness for alone time, the dating life of introverts is unlikely to be as active as that of extroverts. What that means is you’re doing yourself a disservice whenever you compare your situation to that of your chatty, hyper-social friends.

In fact, the only person whose social life you should measure your own against is yours over time!

Obviously, with anything as chaotic as dating, dips and spikes are inevitable. However, it can be helpful to take a moment to honestly answer this question: How is my dating life today compared to a year ago? That’s your dating trajectory.

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4 Things My Successful Coaching Clients Have in Common

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

successful manAs a coach who works primarily with men on their dating and social lives, I’ve noticed some major differences between clients who reach their goals and those who don’t.

If you’re looking to improve your own social life, here are four qualities cultivated by those who have done just that.


1. Not Afraid to Seek Help

Many folks with unsatisfying social lives spend a lot of time venting about their situation, often on social media. While this can sometimes be a healthy outlet, always complaining without ever taking action does nothing to improve your lot.

Every month I offer a handful of free, 20-minute e-chat consults to struggling men to discuss their dating. I don’t expect most of these folks to become paying clients, I just want to share some strategies that might help them get out of their rut, and hope they’ll take things from there.

Yet, despite their often desperate situations, a surprisingly high percentage of these guys will flat out refuse. Of course, some of them are skeptical of coaches in general, a skepticism I share, as there are a lot of frauds out there. But nine times out of ten, I don’t think their fear of wasting 20 minutes is what’s keeping them from chatting. Instead, I believe the obstacle is an unwillingness to ask for help, with the root cause being an inflated ego.

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When Should You Give Up On Dating?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

graphicstock-cartoon-man-waving-white-flag_S78tlpumV-_thumbA surprising number of people—mostly young heterosexual men—are giving up on dating. While it’s true some of those calling it quits are doing so out of a desire to spend more time on their career or other worthwhile pursuits, for most of them it’s because they can’t find any suitable partners.

One poll reported 28 percent of men under the age of thirty didn’t have sex at all in 2018, numbers that have tripled over the last decade and are continuing to spike. While many men are still putting themselves out there, for others the disappointment and frustration have turned into despair and resentment and they’ve thrown in the towel completely.

It’s my personal opinion that if a man chooses not to interact with women that’s his business and I respect his decision. However, as a dating coach I can tell you the vast majority of men who have abandoned dating have done so too soon.

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4 Lies Dating Coaches Tell

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

As a dating coach, few things bother me more than bad advice from other coaches. Often times, it’s simply a lack of understanding on their part and they’re only putting out lousy information because they don’t know any better. But all too frequently dating coaches will tell you things they know are false just to sell their services.

In an effort to keep you from falling for the b.s., here’s my list of the top four lies dating coaches tell.

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