Solo Manuary: Why I’m Swearing Off Women for a Month

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

solo-manuaryYou’ve probably heard of Sober October and maybe even No Fap November, where participants refrain from certain pleasurable pass times for a full month. As a disciplined but unapologetic drinker/masturbator, I’ve never been interested in either, however as a fan of self-development I do like the idea of a personal challenge…Which is why I’m launching Solo Manuary, where for the entire month of January I vow to swear off women!

To be clear, I don’t see Solo Manuary as a criticism—or even a commentary—about women, a gender of which I’m quite fond. For me, Solo Manuary is simply an experiment to discover how much of my life I dedicate to attracting women.

Needless to say, I will still be communicating with the many women in my life, be they friends, family, colleagues, or anyone else I have a non-sexual reason for interacting with. However, for thirty-one days in a row starting January 1, I pledge not to put in any effort whatsoever towards dating, attracting, or even approaching any woman with sexual intent, both in person and online.

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Overcoming Hardship as a Man

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

sad-boyNo question being born a man has its advantages. But you don’t need me to tell you it also comes with its share of obstacles.

When you’re struggling to pay the bills, getting left-swiped on all the dating apps, and generally confused about your place in the world, it can hurt to be constantly told how easy your life is simply because you were born with an X and a Y chromosome.

Painful as it is to have your problems laughed at and dismissed, whatever you do, don’t let yourself become bitter. Wallowing in negativity does nothing to improve your situation and, in fact, can knock you off your path entirely.

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Skipping a Level Isn’t the Same as Beating It

-by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

Skipping-levelI get it. You’re not where you want to be in life and you’re overwhelmed by all the hard work it’s going to take to get there.

You’re constantly bombarded with advice from friends, family, coaches, therapists, and gurus: Read books. Socialize more. Lift weights. Take classes. Change your diet. Find a new career. All of these options—many of which aren’t right for you now or contradict one another—no wonder you’re starting to tune them out.

Obviously, you can’t do everything at once. The key is to pick a single area and make that your focus for a while.

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