Why Most Advice for Introverts is Dead Wrong

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

Danger Bad Advice AheadI love everything about being an introvert, from my thoughtfulness, to my preference for deep connection, to my appreciation of solitude. As a writer and musician, introversion is central to my being and I wouldn’t change it for anything.

Writing about and working with other introverts, I’ve come across countless introvert books and blogs, videos and podcasts, Facebook pages and groups, and Twitter accounts. I’ve learned so much great stuff from these sources, including the science behind introversion, the need to accept the way our brains work, and of course all the funny cartoons.

However, there’s one rotten thread I’ve found running through most of them: encouragement for introverts NOT to push our comfort zone. Either implicitly or explicitly, the message is all too often that because you’re an introvert it’s okay to avoid socializing. And that if people think you’re weird because you never talk to or hang out with them, it’s up to them to change.

For fifteen long years, I bought into this terrible advice, not realizing how much this mindset contributed to my depression and anxiety. Only when I started to question whether being a virtual hermit was good for my mental health, did my life change for the better.

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Level Up Your Social Life with a Free 30-Minute Online Consultation with Introvert Unbound

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Having trouble finding dates? Wish you had more friends? Feeling under-appreciated at work? Don’t worry, you’re not alone…even though it might feel like it sometimes.

Chances are, there’s nothing wrong with you, and you’re just experiencing the downside of being an introvert—which simply means that socializing drains your energy, while spending time alone recharges it.

Needless to say, there are countless benefits to being an introvert, including high levels of creativity, thoughtfulness, and independence (and many other positive qualities). However, it’s hard to deny that interacting well with people is the key to success in dating, friendships, and your career. And since socializing is exhausting to you, you probably don’t do it as often, so you might not be as adept at it as you could be.

The good news is they call them social skills for a reason, and that’s because—like painting a portrait or throwing a football—they’re something you can learn. And that’s what Introvert Unbound is all about.

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