What’s Your Dating Trajectory?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

trajectoryThanks to our limited social energy and fondness for alone time, the dating life of introverts is unlikely to be as active as that of extroverts. What that means is you’re doing yourself a disservice whenever you compare your situation to that of your chatty, hyper-social friends.

In fact, the only person whose social life you should measure your own against is yours over time!

Obviously, with anything as chaotic as dating, dips and spikes are inevitable. However, it can be helpful to take a moment to honestly answer this question: How is my dating life today compared to a year ago? That’s your dating trajectory.

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Why You Shouldn’t Take Rejection Seriously

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

rejectedAh, rejection. The mere mention of the r-word triggers many a dater’s anxiety and/or depression. Maybe if we came up with another term it wouldn’t hurt so much. How about…cold-shouldered?

I’m kidding, of course. Changing the words we use won’t make it any less painful. No, the best way to do away with the misery of rejection is to stop taking it so damned seriously.

And to help you put rejection in the proper perspective, here’s a 100% true anecdote.

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4 Lies Dating Coaches Tell

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

As a dating coach, few things bother me more than bad advice from other coaches. Often times, it’s simply a lack of understanding on their part and they’re only putting out lousy information because they don’t know any better. But all too frequently dating coaches will tell you things they know are false just to sell their services.

In an effort to keep you from falling for the b.s., here’s my list of the top four lies dating coaches tell.

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