Is Cold-Approach “Pickup” Turning You Into a Weirdo?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

buffoonCold-approaching women is one of the best ways for an introvert to improve his social skills.

Meeting high volumes of women in social settings is an effective way to get dates and even find a long-term partner. Yet the benefits of cold-approach extend beyond just getting laid, including honing your conversation skills, enhancing your assertiveness, and improving your self-confidence.

But there’s a dark side to cold-approach. And I’m not just talking about the tendency to sexually objectify women, the very real risks of sex addiction, and an increasing difficulty in forming stable relationships.

If you’re not careful, cold-approach can start to warp your personality, where every part of your being is so focused on what might get a girl to come home with you from a bar, that you start having trouble functioning in other social spheres.

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The Introvert Guy’s Guide to Making Friends

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

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Let’s face it: as an introvert guy it can be tough to make friends. In many ways it’s easier to go out and find women to date than it is to meet a dude friend to hang out with. Sadly, there’s even a bit of a stigma around doing so (“no homo,” etc.)

Most people make friends through school (elementary, high school, college), work, or social circle. In college, everyone is around the same age and living a similar life, so friendships are made pretty organically. But once you graduate and enter the “real world,” it’s not so easy.

Work can be a decent place to make friends, but that’s largely dependent on how many people work there. If it’s just a few of you, you travel a lot, or you work from home, you might not find anyone you resonate with. Friends of friends is perhaps the simplest way, but if you don’t have many friends to begin with, it’s not too helpful.

So what should an introvert guy do to make friends?

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