If you’re an introvert, socializing probably isn’t your strong suit. But interacting well with people is the key to success in dating, friendships, and your career. Stop settling for less in your life—hone your strengths, shore up your weaknesses, and become the Introvert Unbound!
A surprising number of people—mostly young heterosexual men—are giving up on dating. While it’s true some of those calling it quits are doing so out of a desire to spend more time on their career or other worthwhile pursuits, for most of them it’s because they can’t find any suitable partners.
One poll reported 28 percent of men under the age of thirty didn’t have sex at all in 2018, numbers that have tripled over the last decade and are continuing to spike. While many men are still putting themselves out there, for others the disappointment and frustration have turned into despair and resentment and they’ve thrown in the towel completely.
It’s my personal opinion that if a man chooses not to interact with women that’s his business and I respect his decision. However, as a dating coach I can tell you the vast majority of men who have abandoned dating have done so too soon.
We typically avoid political discussions at Introvert Unbound, preferring to focus instead on personal responsibility and self- development. But the recent controversy surrounding “incels” (involuntary celibates) has such a direct tie-in to our work that we felt compelled to comment and make a video.
For those who don’t know, an “incel” is someone (typically a man, but not necessarily) without sexual or romantic relationships, a situation they typically attribute to their physical appearance and/or lack of social skills.
Isolated by nature, many of them have come together through the Internet via platforms such as Reddit as a way to support one another, commiserate, or simply just experience the connection with like-minded individuals we all crave. However, following the deadly Toronto attack in April committed by an apparent incel that killed 10 innocent victims, these outcasted individuals no longer have access to their most popular online gathering space after Reddit banned the “incel” subreddit. Continue reading “A Message to Incels”
Having trouble finding dates? Wish you had more friends? Feeling under-appreciated at work? Don’t worry, you’re not alone…even though it might feel like it sometimes.
Chances are, there’s nothing wrong with you, and you’re just experiencing the downside of being an introvert—which simply means that socializing drains your energy, while spending time alone recharges it.
Needless to say, there are countless benefits to being an introvert, including high levels of creativity, thoughtfulness, and independence (and many other positive qualities). However, it’s hard to deny that interacting well with people is the key to success in dating, friendships, and your career. And since socializing is exhausting to you, you probably don’t do it as often, so you might not be as adept at it as you could be.
The good news is they call them social skills for a reason, and that’s because—like painting a portrait or throwing a football—they’re something you can learn. And that’s what Introvert Unbound is all about.