– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound
As a coach who works primarily with men on their dating and social lives, I’ve noticed some major differences between clients who reach their goals and those who don’t.
If you’re looking to improve your own social life, here are four qualities cultivated by those who have done just that.
1. Not Afraid to Seek Help
Many folks with unsatisfying social lives spend a lot of time venting about their situation, often on social media. While this can sometimes be a healthy outlet, always complaining without ever taking action does nothing to improve your lot.
Every month I offer a handful of free, 20-minute e-chat consults to struggling men to discuss their dating. I don’t expect most of these folks to become paying clients, I just want to share some strategies that might help them get out of their rut, and hope they’ll take things from there.
Yet, despite their often desperate situations, a surprisingly high percentage of these guys will flat out refuse. Of course, some of them are skeptical of coaches in general, a skepticism I share, as there are a lot of frauds out there. But nine times out of ten, I don’t think their fear of wasting 20 minutes is what’s keeping them from chatting. Instead, I believe the obstacle is an unwillingness to ask for help, with the root cause being an inflated ego.