The Case Against Online Dating

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

skeleton smart phone-2Obviously, online dating is one of the main ways people meet these days. Many introverts in particular consider these apps and sites to be godsends, making it possible to get dates without leaving the house.

While there’s no question online dating can enhance many people’s dating lives, I’m going to explain why, as a dating coach, I don’t often recommend it to my clients.

(Editor’s note: This article will be primarily discussing heterosexual relationships, as this is my expertise.)

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PODCAST #17: Lessons from an Introvert Master (with Gabriela Casineanu)

On episode #17 of the Introvert Unbound Podcast, Wes talks with Gabriela Casineanu, professional coach and award-winning author of “Quiet Lessons for the Introvert’s Soul” and “Introverts: Leverage Your Strengths for an Effective Job Search.”

In this wide-ranging chat, Gabriela shares her wisdom on a variety of topics, including:

  • differences between men and women introverts
  • the introvert’s hero journey
  • and whether all introverts should move to Asia

Download or stream episode here

Podcast 17

A New Definition for Introversion

– by Regina Hopkins, Introvert Unbound

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Introversion is typically defined by where you get your “energy.” Even in grad school when I was studying introversion vs. extroversion in depth, the energy definition was the one that was taught. All the books I read and lectures from my professors told me, “It’s about if you get your energy from being around others, or being alone that determines your preference for introversion or extroversion.” While I accepted this definition and went along my merry way, I never really bought into it 100%.

As fresh information comes to light and we learn new things, we re-vamp old definitions and ideas. While I’m not completely dismissing the original definition of introversion, more than 10 years later, I found a definition I like better and feels more accurate to me. Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, stated in a TIME article in 2012 that introversion is really about a preference for less stimulation. When I heard that definition, it just rang more true for me.

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