– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound
Those of us interested in doing “inner work” have two conflicting schools of thought to choose from. The Self Help school teaches us to tackle our weaknesses while the Self Love school wants us to accept ourselves for who we are, flaws and all. Pretty much all of us end up enrolling in one school while ditching the other.
Self Helpers tend to focus on transforming their old “loser” self into a more successful version. Of course, since most Self Helpers set unattainable goals or goals at odds with who they truly are, they rarely achieve them.
Self Lovers prefer cultivating a mindset where they’re okay with their failures. Naturally, this reluctance to take action often means that their actual life situation doesn’t improve.
But what if you didn’t have to choose between the two schools and instead could embrace the paradox of self love and self help?
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On episode #16 of the Introvert Unbound Podcast, Wes shares his experience of “Solo Manuary,” where he swore off dating for the entire month of January.
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On episode #15 of the Introvert Unbound Podcast, Wes talks with Jim Saunders, author of Introvert Shine: Career-Boosting Communication Hacks to Speak Confidently and Build Your Network, about how introverts can succeed in the workplace.
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– by Regina Hopkins, Introvert Unbound
Introversion is typically defined by where you get your “energy.” Even in grad school when I was studying introversion vs. extroversion in depth, the energy definition was the one that was taught. All the books I read and lectures from my professors told me, “It’s about if you get your energy from being around others, or being alone that determines your preference for introversion or extroversion.” While I accepted this definition and went along my merry way, I never really bought into it 100%.
As fresh information comes to light and we learn new things, we re-vamp old definitions and ideas. While I’m not completely dismissing the original definition of introversion, more than 10 years later, I found a definition I like better and feels more accurate to me. Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, stated in a TIME article in 2012 that introversion is really about a preference for less stimulation. When I heard that definition, it just rang more true for me.
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On episode #14 of the Introvert Unbound Podcast, Wes explores how working on your dating life can open the door to deeper levels of personal growth.
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Wes and Regina talk about the difference between a “direct” and “indirect” approach. Which is your favorite?
On episode #13 of the Introvert Unbound Podcast, Wes reveals his past anger issues and shares a simple method he uses to stay cool.
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