4 Things My Successful Coaching Clients Have in Common

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

successful manAs a coach who works primarily with men on their dating and social lives, I’ve noticed some major differences between clients who reach their goals and those who don’t.

If you’re looking to improve your own social life, here are four qualities cultivated by those who have done just that.


1. Not Afraid to Seek Help

Many folks with unsatisfying social lives spend a lot of time venting about their situation, often on social media. While this can sometimes be a healthy outlet, always complaining without ever taking action does nothing to improve your lot.

Every month I offer a handful of free, 20-minute e-chat consults to struggling men to discuss their dating. I don’t expect most of these folks to become paying clients, I just want to share some strategies that might help them get out of their rut, and hope they’ll take things from there.

Yet, despite their often desperate situations, a surprisingly high percentage of these guys will flat out refuse. Of course, some of them are skeptical of coaches in general, a skepticism I share, as there are a lot of frauds out there. But nine times out of ten, I don’t think their fear of wasting 20 minutes is what’s keeping them from chatting. Instead, I believe the obstacle is an unwillingness to ask for help, with the root cause being an inflated ego.

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The Most Effective Tool for Your Social Success

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

MBTI-headsWe’re all about personal growth here at Introvert Unbound. Which is why I’ve become a Certified Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI) Practitioner to better help our coaching clients achieve their social goals! Here’s what that means…

If you’re reading this, you probably have at least a vague idea of the difference between introversion vs. extroversion, the two opposite ways people direct and receive energy. While “extroverts” recharge from the outer world of people, objects, and activities, “introverts” do so from the inner world of ideas, memories, and experiences.

This classification of personality types come from the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI), the most widely used personality assessment in the world, based on the research and writings of psychologist Carl Jung.

As you may know, Introvert Unbound has long specialized in the social integration of those of us with a preference for introversion. As a newly certified MBTI® practitioner, I’m not only qualified to administer the MBTI® assessment, but to interpret the results for your specific personality type and craft an individualized game plan for your social success in dating, making friends, or at work.

After taking this deep dive into what makes you tick, we’ll zero in on how your preference for introversion or extroversion impacts how you:

  • Take in information
  • Decide and come to conclusions
  • Approach the outside world

Unlike the vast majority of coaches out there, we won’t be selling you some one-size-fits-all approach for your social challenges nor will we simply go with our gut and wing it. Instead, we’ll be relying on one of the most accurate personality assessments ever created to draw a clear roadmap for how you can best interact with and relate to other people, effectively taking your social life to the next level!

We’re already using MBTI® to help clients and want to give you the opportunity to be our next success story. That’s why for the month of May, we’re offering a 20% discount on 1 hour of online/phone coaching with myself and Regina Hopkins, LPC, to interpret your MBTI® results and use them to design a social blueprint that works for you.

Just send an email to wes@introvertunbound.com today with subject “MBTI” and we’ll hit the ground running!

Wes Colton
Coach, CEO & Founder
Introvert Unbound (“We Find Where You Fit”)

The Case Against Online Dating

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

skeleton smart phone-2Obviously, online dating is one of the main ways people meet these days. Many introverts in particular consider these apps and sites to be godsends, making it possible to get dates without leaving the house.

While there’s no question online dating can enhance many people’s dating lives, I’m going to explain why, as a dating coach, I don’t often recommend it to my clients.

(Editor’s note: This article will be primarily discussing heterosexual relationships, as this is my expertise.)

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PODCAST #18: Coming Out of Your Introvert Shell (with David Richards)

On episode #18 of the Introvert Unbound Podcast, Wes talks with David Richards, a 22-year-old introvert who came out of his introvert shell after dropping out of college to found his own email system provider, Enveloperty.

In this lively discussion, David and Wes talk about:

  • how important it is for introverts to push their comfort zone
  • the similarities and differences between dating and sales
  • how practice makes pretty good (if not perfect) in terms of socializing

Stream or download here

Podcast 18

The Paradox of Self Love and Self Help

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

heart vs arm-2Those of us interested in doing “inner work” have two conflicting schools of thought to choose from. The Self Help school teaches us to tackle our weaknesses while the Self Love school wants us to accept ourselves for who we are, flaws and all. Pretty much all of us end up enrolling in one school while ditching the other.

Self Helpers tend to focus on transforming their old “loser” self into a more successful version. Of course, since most Self Helpers set unattainable goals or goals at odds with who they truly are, they rarely achieve them.

Self Lovers prefer cultivating a mindset where they’re okay with their failures. Naturally, this reluctance to take action often means that their actual life situation doesn’t improve.

But what if you didn’t have to choose between the two schools and instead could embrace the paradox of self love and self help?

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