5 Introvert Dating Advantages 

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

couple-readingIt’s hard to deny that dating tends to be easiest for extroverts, particularly in the early stages where self-advertising is the name of the game.

The good news, however, is there are several ways in which we introverts have a leg up on our chatty counterparts.

1. Deep Connectors

Introverts prefer close friendships over superficial acquaintances, which can be a major asset in the dating world. When a woman realizes you’re actually interested in getting to know her as a person instead of just one more notch on the bedpost, it can send you right to the front of the line.

2. Good Listeners

Women often (and rightfully) complain that men don’t know how to shut up. Luckily, listening is a quality introverts have in spades. Leaving space for her to speak–while showing genuine interest in what she has to say–can be as important as what comes out of your mouth.

3. Thoughtful Speakers

Thinking before speaking is a tell-tale sign of an introvert. While this filter can sometimes slow down our tongues, the good news is it also usually keeps us from saying anything unkind, rude, or just plain stupid.

4. Empathizers

Similar to our listening skills, introverts’ ever-present discomfort in social situations can train us to pick up cues that our date might be uncomfortable as well. This can range from noticing she’s too cold, the music too loud, or you’re moving things too quickly (or slowly). Being perceptive about another’s needs is a very attractive quality, indeed.

5. Independent

Extroverts have trouble functioning without people around them, which can come across as needy (because it is). Meanwhile, introverts who value their alone time demonstrate independence, a huge turn on to a lot of women.

Needless to say, there are many more than five qualities that give us introverts that dating edge. Got any, yourself? Go ahead and leave them in the comments! 

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Having trouble finding dates? Wish you had more friends? Feeling under-appreciated at work? Don’t worry, you’re not alone…even though it might feel like it sometimes.

Chances are, there’s nothing wrong with you, and you’re just experiencing the downside of being an introvert—which simply means that socializing drains your energy, while spending time alone recharges it.

Needless to say, there are countless benefits to being an introvert, including high levels of creativity, thoughtfulness, and independence (and many other positive qualities). However, it’s hard to deny that interacting well with people is the key to success in dating, friendships, and your career. And since socializing is exhausting to you, you probably don’t do it as often, so you might not be as adept at it as you could be.

The good news is they call them social skills for a reason, and that’s because—like painting a portrait or throwing a football—they’re something you can learn. And that’s what Introvert Unbound is all about.

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Nine Reasons You’re Not Getting Dates

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

crying manIf you’re a relatively healthy man between the ages of 18-50, you should be dating. I’m not talking about daily threesomes with NFL cheerleaders, but at least one encounter every so often with a woman you find attractive and whose company you enjoy.

Dating and having sex is good for you physically, increasing your testosterone levels and boosting your immunity. It’s also good for you mentally, because sex isn’t just about getting off, it’s about connection, and if you’re not feeling connected to society, you’re going to be depressed.

Of course, it’s a cruel cycle where not getting dates over longer and longer lengths of time can make you feel progressively shittier, making it even harder to access dates. But if you’re reading this, that’s hardly news.

If you’re not getting regular dates, I can almost guarantee that at least one—and likely more than one—of the below reasons applies to you. Work on these aspects and you’ll be one step closer to a healthy dating life.

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