How to Touch a Woman

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

man huggingWhether it’s a from cold-approach or on an Internet date, if you want to get intimate with a woman, at some point you’re going to have to touch her. So what’s the when, where, and how when it comes to physicality?

To simplify, let’s break things down into 3 stages of touching:

Stage 1Introductory: you’re introducing yourself.
Stage 2Familiar: you’re getting to know each other.
Stage 3Intimate: you’re sexualizing the interaction.

Obviously, these stages aren’t hard and fast rules, just guidelines for guys who might benefit from a bit of structure to their interactions and/or who are worried about making a woman uncomfortable. Depending on your personality and experience, you can jump into Stage 2 or sometimes even Stage 3 quite quickly, or use elements of any stage at any time.

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The Most Common (and Fixable) Habit Keeping You From Attracting Women

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

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Graphic: Practicalhappiness.com

There’s one bad habit I’ve seen in pretty much every guy learning how to approach women.

If left untreated, it will continue to be a major obstacle in attracting women in cold-approach situations. Luckily, once diagnosed, it’s one of the easiest things to cure.

The habit: standing too far away.

It might not sound like much, but proximity is often the difference between a woman perceiving you as a potential sexual partner or just a friend/harmless rando.

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Rejection = Success

– by Wes Colton,  Introvert Unbound

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Graphic: Hey It’s Me the Nerd

Rejection is one of the toughest things about meeting women.

When you first start out trying to improve your dating life, your biggest obstacle will be the sheer number of rejections you’ll be racking up. It just goes with the territory–as long men as are the ones expected to initiate  interactions with women, rejection will always be there.

Though it may sound counterintuitive, the more successful you get with women, the more rejections you’ll be experiencing.

Case in point: Over the past couple of months, I’ve had more women in my “funnel” than ever before. And while it’s resulting in a higher number of “successes,” it also means that I’m getting way more rejections than normal, which, no matter how desensitized you are to the phenomenon, still hurts.

Ironically, there is less pain involved with only meeting a handful of women, because even if you don’t get anywhere with any of them, at least there will only be a small number of “no’s” you have to suffer through.

And that’s the thing…Guys who learn to shrug off rejection are the ones who end up persevering and achieving the success they want with women. While the ones who can’t handle the pain are the ones who give up.

How do you deal with rejection?