If you’re an introvert, socializing probably isn’t your strong suit. But interacting well with people is the key to success in dating, friendships, and your career. Stop settling for less in your life—hone your strengths, shore up your weaknesses, and become the Introvert Unbound!
Whether it’s a from cold-approach or on an Internet date, if you want to get intimate with a woman, at some point you’re going to have to touch her. So what’s the when, where, and how when it comes to physicality?
To simplify, let’s break things down into 3 stages of touching:
Stage 1 – Introductory: you’re introducing yourself. Stage 2 – Familiar: you’re getting to know each other. Stage 3 – Intimate: you’re sexualizing the interaction.
Obviously, these stages aren’t hard and fast rules, just guidelines for guys who might benefit from a bit of structure to their interactions and/or who are worried about making a woman uncomfortable. Depending on your personality and experience, you can jump into Stage 2 or sometimes even Stage 3 quite quickly, or use elements of any stage at any time.
Rejection is one of the toughest things about meeting women.
When you first start out trying to improve your dating life, your biggest obstacle will be the sheer number of rejections you’ll be racking up. It just goes with the territory–as long men as are the ones expected to initiate interactions with women, rejection will always be there.
Though it may sound counterintuitive, the more successful you get with women, the more rejections you’ll be experiencing.
Case in point: Over the past couple of months, I’ve had more women in my “funnel” than ever before. And while it’s resulting in a higher number of “successes,” it also means that I’m getting way more rejections than normal, which, no matter how desensitized you are to the phenomenon, still hurts.
Ironically, there is less pain involved with only meeting a handful of women, because even if you don’t get anywhere with any of them, at least there will only be a small number of “no’s” you have to suffer through.
And that’s the thing…Guys who learn to shrug off rejection are the ones who end up persevering and achieving the success they want with women. While the ones who can’t handle the pain are the ones who give up.