Why You Shouldn’t Take Rejection Seriously

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

rejectedAh, rejection. The mere mention of the r-word triggers many a dater’s anxiety and/or depression. Maybe if we came up with another term it wouldn’t hurt so much. How about…cold-shouldered?

I’m kidding, of course. Changing the words we use won’t make it any less painful. No, the best way to do away with the misery of rejection is to stop taking it so damned seriously.

And to help you put rejection in the proper perspective, here’s a 100% true anecdote.

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How to Deal with Ghosting

-by Wes Colton,  Introvert Unbound

ghostFor those who don’t know, ghosting is when someone stops texting you without any explanation why. We’ve all had it done to us. But why does it hurt so much?

Probably because it can feel like the ultimate rejection. You imagine that not only isn’t the person interested in you, but they consider you so unimportant that they won’t even take 30 seconds to let you know. They have no problem leaving you hanging for days, wondering if they’re just busy or flaky, until it finally dawns on you that you’ll never see this person again.

Of course, you have no idea what’s going on in someone’s life to make them ghost and trying to guess the reason why is an exercise in futility.

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Rejection = Success

– by Wes Colton,  Introvert Unbound

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Graphic: Hey It’s Me the Nerd

Rejection is one of the toughest things about meeting women.

When you first start out trying to improve your dating life, your biggest obstacle will be the sheer number of rejections you’ll be racking up. It just goes with the territory–as long men as are the ones expected to initiate  interactions with women, rejection will always be there.

Though it may sound counterintuitive, the more successful you get with women, the more rejections you’ll be experiencing.

Case in point: Over the past couple of months, I’ve had more women in my “funnel” than ever before. And while it’s resulting in a higher number of “successes,” it also means that I’m getting way more rejections than normal, which, no matter how desensitized you are to the phenomenon, still hurts.

Ironically, there is less pain involved with only meeting a handful of women, because even if you don’t get anywhere with any of them, at least there will only be a small number of “no’s” you have to suffer through.

And that’s the thing…Guys who learn to shrug off rejection are the ones who end up persevering and achieving the success they want with women. While the ones who can’t handle the pain are the ones who give up.

How do you deal with rejection?