What’s Your Dating Trajectory?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

trajectoryThanks to our limited social energy and fondness for alone time, the dating life of introverts is unlikely to be as active as that of extroverts. What that means is you’re doing yourself a disservice whenever you compare your situation to that of your chatty, hyper-social friends.

In fact, the only person whose social life you should measure your own against is yours over time!

Obviously, with anything as chaotic as dating, dips and spikes are inevitable. However, it can be helpful to take a moment to honestly answer this question: How is my dating life today compared to a year ago? That’s your dating trajectory.

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Why You Shouldn’t Take Rejection Seriously

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

rejectedAh, rejection. The mere mention of the r-word triggers many a dater’s anxiety and/or depression. Maybe if we came up with another term it wouldn’t hurt so much. How about…cold-shouldered?

I’m kidding, of course. Changing the words we use won’t make it any less painful. No, the best way to do away with the misery of rejection is to stop taking it so damned seriously.

And to help you put rejection in the proper perspective, here’s a 100% true anecdote.

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The Most Effective Tool for Your Social Success

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

MBTI-headsWe’re all about personal growth here at Introvert Unbound. Which is why I’ve become a Certified Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI) Practitioner to better help our coaching clients achieve their social goals! Here’s what that means…

If you’re reading this, you probably have at least a vague idea of the difference between introversion vs. extroversion, the two opposite ways people direct and receive energy. While “extroverts” recharge from the outer world of people, objects, and activities, “introverts” do so from the inner world of ideas, memories, and experiences.

This classification of personality types come from the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI), the most widely used personality assessment in the world, based on the research and writings of psychologist Carl Jung.

As you may know, Introvert Unbound has long specialized in the social integration of those of us with a preference for introversion. As a newly certified MBTI® practitioner, I’m not only qualified to administer the MBTI® assessment, but to interpret the results for your specific personality type and craft an individualized game plan for your social success in dating, making friends, or at work.

After taking this deep dive into what makes you tick, we’ll zero in on how your preference for introversion or extroversion impacts how you:

  • Take in information
  • Decide and come to conclusions
  • Approach the outside world

Unlike the vast majority of coaches out there, we won’t be selling you some one-size-fits-all approach for your social challenges nor will we simply go with our gut and wing it. Instead, we’ll be relying on one of the most accurate personality assessments ever created to draw a clear roadmap for how you can best interact with and relate to other people, effectively taking your social life to the next level!

We’re already using MBTI® to help clients and want to give you the opportunity to be our next success story. That’s why for the month of May, we’re offering a 20% discount on 1 hour of online/phone coaching with myself and Regina Hopkins, LPC, to interpret your MBTI® results and use them to design a social blueprint that works for you.

Just send an email to wes@introvertunbound.com today with subject “MBTI” and we’ll hit the ground running!

Wes Colton
Coach, CEO & Founder
Introvert Unbound (“We Find Where You Fit”)

5 Signs It’s Time to Hire a Dating Coach

– by Regina Hopkins, Introvert Unbound

coachingThe effective presentation of your personality is your ticket to winning at dating. Bottom line: You not only need a sharp and unique style that sets you apart from the crowd, but also the social skills and confidence to display your best self if you want to land more dates or find your partner.

Not sure if the image you’re projecting is going to entice potential dates? Here are 5 signs you could use some help from the pros:

1) You’re re-entering the dating world for the first time in several years

Times have changed since you were last on the hunt for a date. Professional coaches can make sure you’re putting your best possible self out there. They’ll get you up to date with current dating trends, review your social strategies, troubleshoot problem areas, and set you up with a game plan for success.

2) You’re not getting dates on your own

The experts can help you highlight your strengths, skills and unique personal attributes that set you apart. They’ll give you a plethora of ideas and strategies for meeting new people and feeling good about your dating life.

3) You’re not sure what information to include in your online dating profile

Coaches can work with you to figure out what you need to include (and what you don’t).

4) You’re questioning whether your online profile is being overlooked

The pros will ensure that you’re standing out amongst the vast pool of online dating profiles.

5) You’re struggling to “sell” yourself

If you’re not the type to brag, you may struggle to make a case for why you’re a fantastic date and potentially even more for the right person. A dating coach will have no problem boasting about your greatest attributes, successes and personal characteristics that make you unique and attractive to others.

If any of these situations sound familiar to you, it’s time to call in the professionals. Get your FREE 30-minute online or phone consultation with Introvert Unbound coaches Wes Colton, Certified MBTI Practitioner and Regina Hopkins, licensed professional counselor, TODAY!

Questions? Contact wes@introvertunbound.com or call 720-209-0338.

The Paradox of Self Love and Self Help

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

heart vs arm-2Those of us interested in doing “inner work” have two conflicting schools of thought to choose from. The Self Help school teaches us to tackle our weaknesses while the Self Love school wants us to accept ourselves for who we are, flaws and all. Pretty much all of us end up enrolling in one school while ditching the other.

Self Helpers tend to focus on transforming their old “loser” self into a more successful version. Of course, since most Self Helpers set unattainable goals or goals at odds with who they truly are, they rarely achieve them.

Self Lovers prefer cultivating a mindset where they’re okay with their failures. Naturally, this reluctance to take action often means that their actual life situation doesn’t improve.

But what if you didn’t have to choose between the two schools and instead could embrace the paradox of self love and self help?

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