When Should You Give Up On Dating?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

graphicstock-cartoon-man-waving-white-flag_S78tlpumV-_thumbA surprising number of people—mostly young heterosexual men—are giving up on dating. While it’s true some of those calling it quits are doing so out of a desire to spend more time on their career or other worthwhile pursuits, for most of them it’s because they can’t find any suitable partners.

One poll reported 28 percent of men under the age of thirty didn’t have sex at all in 2018, numbers that have tripled over the last decade and are continuing to spike. While many men are still putting themselves out there, for others the disappointment and frustration have turned into despair and resentment and they’ve thrown in the towel completely.

It’s my personal opinion that if a man chooses not to interact with women that’s his business and I respect his decision. However, as a dating coach I can tell you the vast majority of men who have abandoned dating have done so too soon.

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4 Lies Dating Coaches Tell

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

As a dating coach, few things bother me more than bad advice from other coaches. Often times, it’s simply a lack of understanding on their part and they’re only putting out lousy information because they don’t know any better. But all too frequently dating coaches will tell you things they know are false just to sell their services.

In an effort to keep you from falling for the b.s., here’s my list of the top four lies dating coaches tell.

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5 Signs It’s Time to Hire a Dating Coach

– by Regina Hopkins, Introvert Unbound

coachingThe effective presentation of your personality is your ticket to winning at dating. Bottom line: You not only need a sharp and unique style that sets you apart from the crowd, but also the social skills and confidence to display your best self if you want to land more dates or find your partner.

Not sure if the image you’re projecting is going to entice potential dates? Here are 5 signs you could use some help from the pros:

1) You’re re-entering the dating world for the first time in several years

Times have changed since you were last on the hunt for a date. Professional coaches can make sure you’re putting your best possible self out there. They’ll get you up to date with current dating trends, review your social strategies, troubleshoot problem areas, and set you up with a game plan for success.

2) You’re not getting dates on your own

The experts can help you highlight your strengths, skills and unique personal attributes that set you apart. They’ll give you a plethora of ideas and strategies for meeting new people and feeling good about your dating life.

3) You’re not sure what information to include in your online dating profile

Coaches can work with you to figure out what you need to include (and what you don’t).

4) You’re questioning whether your online profile is being overlooked

The pros will ensure that you’re standing out amongst the vast pool of online dating profiles.

5) You’re struggling to “sell” yourself

If you’re not the type to brag, you may struggle to make a case for why you’re a fantastic date and potentially even more for the right person. A dating coach will have no problem boasting about your greatest attributes, successes and personal characteristics that make you unique and attractive to others.

If any of these situations sound familiar to you, it’s time to call in the professionals. Get your FREE 30-minute online or phone consultation with Introvert Unbound coaches Wes Colton, Certified MBTI Practitioner and Regina Hopkins, licensed professional counselor, TODAY!

Questions? Contact wes@introvertunbound.com or call 720-209-0338.

5 Introvert Dating Advantages 

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

couple-readingIt’s hard to deny that dating tends to be easiest for extroverts, particularly in the early stages where self-advertising is the name of the game.

The good news, however, is there are several ways in which we introverts have a leg up on our chatty counterparts.

1. Deep Connectors

Introverts prefer close friendships over superficial acquaintances, which can be a major asset in the dating world. When a woman realizes you’re actually interested in getting to know her as a person instead of just one more notch on the bedpost, it can send you right to the front of the line.

2. Good Listeners

Women often (and rightfully) complain that men don’t know how to shut up. Luckily, listening is a quality introverts have in spades. Leaving space for her to speak–while showing genuine interest in what she has to say–can be as important as what comes out of your mouth.

3. Thoughtful Speakers

Thinking before speaking is a tell-tale sign of an introvert. While this filter can sometimes slow down our tongues, the good news is it also usually keeps us from saying anything unkind, rude, or just plain stupid.

4. Empathizers

Similar to our listening skills, introverts’ ever-present discomfort in social situations can train us to pick up cues that our date might be uncomfortable as well. This can range from noticing she’s too cold, the music too loud, or you’re moving things too quickly (or slowly). Being perceptive about another’s needs is a very attractive quality, indeed.

5. Independent

Extroverts have trouble functioning without people around them, which can come across as needy (because it is). Meanwhile, introverts who value their alone time demonstrate independence, a huge turn on to a lot of women.

Needless to say, there are many more than five qualities that give us introverts that dating edge. Got any, yourself? Go ahead and leave them in the comments!