PODCAST #17: Lessons from an Introvert Master (with Gabriela Casineanu)

On episode #17 of the Introvert Unbound Podcast, Wes talks with Gabriela Casineanu, professional coach and award-winning author of “Quiet Lessons for the Introvert’s Soul” and “Introverts: Leverage Your Strengths for an Effective Job Search.”

In this wide-ranging chat, Gabriela shares her wisdom on a variety of topics, including:

  • differences between men and women introverts
  • the introvert’s hero journey
  • and whether all introverts should move to Asia

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Podcast 17

Reframing Small Talk

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

small-talkOne of the biggest introvert pet peeves is “small talk.” That’s usually because deep-delvers such as ourselves don’t want to waste our precious social energy on petty topics like weather or sports scores, but instead connect on issues that matter to us.

This quest for meaning is one of introverts’ most admirable traits. Unfortunately, with most people, it’s not always possible to get into such weighty matters right off the bat. For example, it comes across as a little weird to introduce yourself for the first time to a stranger and then immediately ask, “So, do you think there’s such a thing as pure good and evil?”

When people get together with strangers, they’re sussing one another out. So it’s understandable that a lot of folks are wary about baring their souls to people they don’t know the first thing about. And that’s really what small talk is about.

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An Introvert’s Secret to Extending Your Social Battery

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

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Graphic: Sarah DuJour

I’ve always been an extreme introvert, preferring to spend much of my time completely alone or in very small groups. It’s not that I hate people, it’s simply that—as with all introverts—socializing drains my energy, so I tend to enjoy solitary activities the most.

Over the years, though, I started to accept the fact that my aversion to socializing might be keeping me from living the life I wanted.

After graduating from college, I found it difficult to make new friends, as that required putting myself into new situations and introducing myself to people. Since I worked from home, my professional life was mostly fine, but I knew I was limiting my prospects because I never wanted to network in person with colleagues who could’ve expanded my horizons. And, needless to say, my social isolation made it so my dating life was pretty dismal.

Finally, it got to the point where my misery was greater than my dislike of socializing and I decided to just launch myself out there into the world. And the discovery I made changed my life: I had been using my introversion as a crutch.

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