Is Cold-Approaching Women Sexual Harassment?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

Man touching shoulder of uncomfortable woman co-workerFor months, sexual harassment has dominated the news cycle. Kicked off by allegations of movie producer Harvey Weinstein propositioning young actresses in exchange for film roles, accusations have rippled across the entertainment and political landscape.

I’m not going to comment on what may or may not be going on in these many unfortunate cases. Instead, I’d like to discuss whether today’s sexual/political climate means the end of cold-approaching women.

There’s no question that we’re living in a time when men’s behavior towards women is being scrutinized like never before. However, instead of this spelling the demise of cold-approaching women, I’d argue that cold-approach is more important than ever.

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Is Cold-Approach “Pickup” Turning You Into a Weirdo?

– by Wes Colton, Introvert Unbound

buffoonCold-approaching women is one of the best ways for an introvert to improve his social skills.

Meeting high volumes of women in social settings is an effective way to get dates and even find a long-term partner. Yet the benefits of cold-approach extend beyond just getting laid, including honing your conversation skills, enhancing your assertiveness, and improving your self-confidence.

But there’s a dark side to cold-approach. And I’m not just talking about the tendency to sexually objectify women, the very real risks of sex addiction, and an increasing difficulty in forming stable relationships.

If you’re not careful, cold-approach can start to warp your personality, where every part of your being is so focused on what might get a girl to come home with you from a bar, that you start having trouble functioning in other social spheres.

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